Dating in 2025

 It's 2025. A lot of things changed since the 1900s. Back then it was easy to get a date. It was easy to talk to people and them not lie to you. 

Another thing is don't rush it and actually get to know the person. Take it slow and be sure they are the one.

In today's world, it's one story after another. It's bad enough women, not all of us but a few expects the most from men. I'm not saying nothing but boundaries and priorities but there should be a limit.

If a man who seems interested in you and actually is trying to keep a conversation and actually showing you the attention you want and they wake up talking to you and they fall asleep talking to you and they are pretty much talking to you about everything including how they feel and they are being open with you then you should be open and honest with them. 

He is not your door mat, he is not your money bag or piggy bank. If you are just using him just because and you get mad and bitter when he decides to stop wasting his time on you because you bring nothing to the table but open legs then that's on you. A man need so much more then some cat. 

A man need someone he can confined in and someone that balances him out. He needs his person that he loves so much that he is afraid he's going to lose you. 

Some men do cry not because he's a baby but because it takes a real one to actually show feelings and emotions. Men are always taught oh just because you're a man you can cry or show feelings or emotions. This is not true. Cry and take as much time as you need. 

Stop playing with these men feelings. Stop lying to them. You know they like you and can tell it and if you don't like them be open and honest and tell them.

Stop allowing them to waste their time thinking they got a chance and they ain't your cup or tea cause if the tables were turned you would not like it either. 

Stop using them just for the attention just because you're bored and you are stringing them alone. 

They do not deserve this and I'm not talking about the cheaters and players. I'm talking about the ones that actually does try and is actually looking for love.

It is hard to let go; It's time to put you first

 

Sometimes, we encounter people in our lives and they end up making a mark on us. No matter how they do us or what they say we always will forgive them and try to be there for them even though they are never really there for us. 

It is like when we try to go no contact, when we try to distance ourself from them, unfriend them, block them or just do whatever it is to pretty much get away from them its like we can't let them go.

 We somehow wind up back in the area where we were once before and we pretty much try and try again but we end up adding them back, trying to patch things up and keep rekindling the fire because we are lonely. 

I know the feels. I know exactly what it is like to get rid of people who no longer serve a purpose to me but end up keep coming back days, months and even years because you want to catch up and feel like there's a piece of us missing or just because you need or want someone to talk to.

When in reality, if we get past the sinking lonely feeling, if we get past the feeling that you need them in your life when you really don't. 

We always bend our backs and do whatever we can for others while they do the bare minimum for us but then when we need them, they are never there. 

It's never the how are you doing but its always can you do this or that? 

It's time to put yourself first and do for you. Remove the negative people out of your life. Remove the gaslighting, remove the jealousy, remove anything and anyone that does not serve you. 

It is time for healing and removing these kinds of people will allow you to do and be better. Never stand lower than someone and remember you are not a door mat so stop allowing people to walk over you and use you.

If a person showed you who they were once, they will do it again and again.

 No one can change on the drop of a dime, it takes time and sometimes they don't even really change, they just say that and use an excuse of why and reasons. Never left a snake bite you twice. 

It is time for peace, we have been at war for so long it is time to let it all go and have peace and heal. 

We owe it to ourselves and deserve to finally be free and happy and don't say you're happy with whoever it was doing this to you because I can honestly say your going to get tired of it and snap and let it all go.

Worrisome: RA, Gout, Kidney disease

With recent events happening in the world it has became kind of worrisome with everything. My family is a low income family with three kids. My husband is on Humira for his rheumatoid arthritis and he has been diagnosed with gout. 

My husband also has to go back to the rheumatologist every two to three month to make sure his labs are good and everything is functioning okay.  

 He also was only born with one kidney and he hangs out between stage 2 and stage 3 kidney disease in which his body cannot process everything correctly and it gets to the point sometimes he has to go to the hospital to get treatment and fluids to help his kidney filter things out and raise his GFR levels in which this is kind of scary sometimes. He is currently on Medicaid and because of this we do not have to worry about his medications.

 It is hard on him somedays and he struggles a lot but that does not stop him. He hurts all over his body and his arms, elbows, knees, feet and hands swell up to the point he cannot move it and it is a challenge for him some days but sometimes he goes weeks without swelling but it depends on what he does and if he stands or walks for long periods of time.

He also works full time but he is trying to find a part time job that allows him to take days off or is just flexible with him and that is hard to do. The insurance his company offers is not the greatest not just that, he oftentimes have to switch companies because his contracts ends or they end up laying off because they do not need everyone that they hired. 

He also cannot get disability even though we filled it out and even sent everything they wanted and needed along with signing medical release forms and they still denied him because they would never come around and accept it and it was a long hassle with it. No one can just go without the money and funding they need to make sure ends are met and the bills are paid. The way they have the disability set up is horrible because it takes years for them to ever get back to you and approve or deny you and you can end up loosing everything just waiting on a response and often times they end up denying you and you end up having to find a lawyer to get help with it so that they will approve it and this also becomes a prolonged process. 

My hope and dream is to be able to make enough money to help him the best that I can so that he does not have to worry about bills or anything else. I want him to be able to take breaks and time for himself instead of forcing himself to work for a company that is just going to replace him when something happens. 

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Medicine of a tired spirit: Jealousy and Envy

 Jealousy and Envy are the two most blockers in the world. Being jealous of something that a person has or can get can end up allowing you to miss something that you were suppose to have.

 Being angry or upset because a person has something will not allow you to grow and get what you need. You never know what a person has went through nor their journey or the things they had to go through to get where they are today. 

Life is hard and life always will knock you down to the point you feel like giving up and not go anymore and when you start looking around, you can start to notice that people have different things.

 A lot of people are getting the things you dreamed of and it feels like you are never going to get it and you keep working hard towards it and all kinds of things starts happening and you feel like you are loosing grip and the more you look around and the more you see someone else getting something new or someone else getting things before you and it starts to make you feel like there is no reason to keep going and you want to give up and you become mad, jealous and envy them because of where they are or what they have.

 Yes, this feeling happens to a lot of people but you are not suppose to feel this way because it can end up potentially blocking your blessing and stop you from focusing and keep going on to where you are suppose to be. 

If you give up, then you will end up having to restart the process and not everything is going to come to you as quick as you want them. It is going to take time and it has to be the right time for you to get it. It is going to take a lot of hard work and dedication for you to get to where you want to be in life and giving up is never an option. You may have to stop and take breaks and change your game plan but eventually, it is all going to work out. 

You are also going to have to change your thinking and stop being negative towards everyone and everything. It is all a mindset and once you change it, things will start to get better.

Therapy

 Therapy for some are many different things. Therapy allows you to open up and talk about your feelings pretty much anyway you can, want to or feel. 

My therapy is blogging and writing about how I feel, things bothering me and what is on my mind. 

Another therapy for me is anything that heals my inner child and allows me to grow and be better then my parents were. 

I told them growing up that I need therapy, I have a lack of expressing how I feel and it was just blown off. They said I did not need therapy so from there, I decide to bottle up every little bit of emotion that I had and I ended up having this rage and anger and it was like they never cared nor listened to what I needed or want but instead they favored my brother and gave him everything and anything he wanted and I ended up having to cope on my own and figure out how to juggle and manage everything. 

I also enjoy photography but due to having to sale my gear to help fund the house we live in, I never got enough funds or gotten around to buying a new kit and so now I am trying to find other way to cope. 

Favoritism... Parents

One thing I cannot stand is a person who thinks they are better than everyone and bragging about the things that they have or got. A person I have for this example is my father. Growing up, we did not have much. 

We sometimes did not have enough food on the table growing up and now that my grandmother and grandfather died, my dad has money. 

It was not bad enough he asked my brother and I what we would do if he split it as if he was actually going to do so but no he did not. It was silly me thinking he would actually split it but no he kept it all to himself. 

My father growing up, was not the person that he is today. He did not brag about buying new cars, this that the other things that he buys. The person that I knew did not act brand new because he got money. 

He quit his main job, a job where he had benefits and went working for a farm and now he is trying to get back to his main job so he can have days off and benefits.

He already has over 7 cars in the yard. 2 cars do not run, the truck they had to replace the motor on, my mothers old car that he now takes and drive because his vehicle, messed up and he sold. My mothers car now that has some issues that is at the shop. They got a luxurious car because he did some work on a rich guy he knows and he gave it to him and pretty much my brother is getting my mothers car when it gets out of the shop but its a lot of favoritism here.

 My vehicle needs some parts and some work but it doesn't matter. I am on my own. 

I walk around like it does not bother me because of my babies and I don't want them to know how bad this hurts. I walk around like my childhood was the greatest when it does not exist. I am still healing my childhood and inner child with my kiddos. I am doing things with them that my parents did not do with me such as beach trips, and any other places we have never been too. 

It has always been favoritism. My brother, when he graduated high school, my father allowed him to be put on his credit to get loans and go to college. I cannot even finish my degree because I don't have the funding but yet my brother got his degree and help that he needed. He told me no one is going on his credit to ruin his credit but yet my brother did not have a job could not pay it back in which I believe my dad ended up paying for it but yet I couldn't get $8,000 to finish mine.

 Instead my mother was sneaking money around for her sister and got caught and got fussed at and then I needed to borrow money to finish paying for the house that I bought but yet I got on a payment plan with him and I have to pay it back while no one else is having to.

My brother growing up got to go with friends everywhere. He got to go to beach trips and mountain trips and other places while I never got to experience that. My brother got to go stay the night at friends house while I could never. I never got to go anywhere. The only place I have been was to the Zoo with a friend but that was it. 

Also growing up, it was rocky. When we got in trouble, we were always getting whooped. It was never a talking to. It never felt like love growing up. It felt like a struggle. Now going over to my parents house it always feels like tension. Like something is wrong maybe it is. Maybe my mother is actually going to start standing up and seeing how my father is doing. 

I don't know. I just know, its a rare occasion for me to bring my kids to see them. It's not like they don't know where I live. It's I always got go see them but they never come see me. It's I always got to try to catch them. Its never a phone call, a text or a check up. It a never bring the kids over and take a day or a moment.  

 

MLM: Multi-level marketing- Pyramid scheme

 MLM is a scam and if  you do not know what it is it's multi-level marketing also known as a pyramid scheme. Affiliate marketing is pretty much an MLM and a lot of people do not realize it.  

They always market affiliate marketing as the best thing to do and an easy way to make cash when in reality you are making the business money and promoting them for free while you are making either nothing or pennies on a dollar.

 It's like when applying to these companies, why am I needed if they are making a lot of money what can I do differently to help the company?

 If there are millions of people promoting them and you see their ads everywhere including though google AdSense how can I help them? 

That's the thing, companies pays other companies like google to promote their products and ads. They pay Facebook and other places to promote.

 So it is like they are using you because you may need the money to get you to promote for them while they sit there still making money and you end up barely making anything. 

So I do not recommend affiliate marketing if you are looking to make money. I do recommend joining Click worker, Oneforma, Prolific, Aurora studios or any of those because you do end up getting paid for tasks that you do and these companies do not scam you.