Dating in 2025

 It's 2025. A lot of things changed since the 1900s. Back then it was easy to get a date. It was easy to talk to people and them not lie to you. 

Another thing is don't rush it and actually get to know the person. Take it slow and be sure they are the one.

In today's world, it's one story after another. It's bad enough women, not all of us but a few expects the most from men. I'm not saying nothing but boundaries and priorities but there should be a limit.

If a man who seems interested in you and actually is trying to keep a conversation and actually showing you the attention you want and they wake up talking to you and they fall asleep talking to you and they are pretty much talking to you about everything including how they feel and they are being open with you then you should be open and honest with them. 

He is not your door mat, he is not your money bag or piggy bank. If you are just using him just because and you get mad and bitter when he decides to stop wasting his time on you because you bring nothing to the table but open legs then that's on you. A man need so much more then some cat. 

A man need someone he can confined in and someone that balances him out. He needs his person that he loves so much that he is afraid he's going to lose you. 

Some men do cry not because he's a baby but because it takes a real one to actually show feelings and emotions. Men are always taught oh just because you're a man you can cry or show feelings or emotions. This is not true. Cry and take as much time as you need. 

Stop playing with these men feelings. Stop lying to them. You know they like you and can tell it and if you don't like them be open and honest and tell them.

Stop allowing them to waste their time thinking they got a chance and they ain't your cup or tea cause if the tables were turned you would not like it either. 

Stop using them just for the attention just because you're bored and you are stringing them alone. 

They do not deserve this and I'm not talking about the cheaters and players. I'm talking about the ones that actually does try and is actually looking for love.

It is hard to let go; It's time to put you first

 

Sometimes, we encounter people in our lives and they end up making a mark on us. No matter how they do us or what they say we always will forgive them and try to be there for them even though they are never really there for us. 

It is like when we try to go no contact, when we try to distance ourself from them, unfriend them, block them or just do whatever it is to pretty much get away from them its like we can't let them go.

 We somehow wind up back in the area where we were once before and we pretty much try and try again but we end up adding them back, trying to patch things up and keep rekindling the fire because we are lonely. 

I know the feels. I know exactly what it is like to get rid of people who no longer serve a purpose to me but end up keep coming back days, months and even years because you want to catch up and feel like there's a piece of us missing or just because you need or want someone to talk to.

When in reality, if we get past the sinking lonely feeling, if we get past the feeling that you need them in your life when you really don't. 

We always bend our backs and do whatever we can for others while they do the bare minimum for us but then when we need them, they are never there. 

It's never the how are you doing but its always can you do this or that? 

It's time to put yourself first and do for you. Remove the negative people out of your life. Remove the gaslighting, remove the jealousy, remove anything and anyone that does not serve you. 

It is time for healing and removing these kinds of people will allow you to do and be better. Never stand lower than someone and remember you are not a door mat so stop allowing people to walk over you and use you.

If a person showed you who they were once, they will do it again and again.

 No one can change on the drop of a dime, it takes time and sometimes they don't even really change, they just say that and use an excuse of why and reasons. Never left a snake bite you twice. 

It is time for peace, we have been at war for so long it is time to let it all go and have peace and heal. 

We owe it to ourselves and deserve to finally be free and happy and don't say you're happy with whoever it was doing this to you because I can honestly say your going to get tired of it and snap and let it all go.