Ways to get a house!

 A way to get an affordable house is to wait until the states have a tax sale, call down to your local tax office and see when they have their tax sale and then go and get one of those. You can also find delinquent tax deeds and pay for those and then they should become yours but in the state of SC the delinquent has 6 months to pay you back but often times they do not or cannot. 

 If you do not like to do it that way, you can always buy some land and get a tiny house or a pop up house or even a mobile home and go that route. It is best to find land that has water and septic already hooked up or you may have to pay for that but hey, it is cheaper than having to spend $200,000 for a brand new house. This way allows you to save money until you can get better especially in this economy. 

Another way is you can try to find rent to own places. I know a lot of people do not do these anymore but you can always ask, you will never know if you do not ask. Our home was going to be rent to own but due to conditions of it, the age and the previous owner sold it to the guy we bought it from as a bundle with other rentals, the bank would not allow it to be until he paid for it to be undone and brought his lawyers in to help fix it. 

If you happen to find a mobile home lot with used or repo mobile homes, they some times have package deal where you can get a mobile home and land too for one price and or you can pretty much rent to own it until it is paid off. 

 Some of these places, you do not need credit just your down payment and that is all. I know a place in Columbia/Darlington South Carolina that does this and it is called Southern Choice Homes. Some of these places also have land for sale and most of them do have septic and water hook ups all you have to do is get a trailer and drop it on it. 

If you are looking for mobile homes for sale or rent, I recommend Mobile Home Village because it pretty much shows you mobile homes for sale and rent everywhere and every state. There is some hope. 

DreameShort: Drama TV from Mobile App

If you are looking for a mobile app that is kind of like Tubi but not like tubi that allows you to stream shows and dramas, check out DreameShort. They have all different kinds of shows and episodes to choose from. These shows are short drama soap opera shows that are broken up into different episode so it leave you on cliff hangers.

It has all different kinds of new shows that are recommended by different viewers and it has a lot of hot and popular shows. This app is free but they also have a Dreame Pass where you can subscribe and pay and get ad free viewing, have your shows at 1080p and unlock even more Early Access dramas and other bonuses that you get. If you pay for it, it unlocks a lot more shows for you so you can watch all that you want. You can get a week pass or an annal pass. If you subscribe and then decide that it is not for you, you can cancel anytime which is nice.

You can also earn rewards that also gives you bonuses which is also useful and helpful. This allows you to watch your shows or start a new series from pretty much anywhere since it is phone and tablet compatible. You can also watch it on chomebooks or anywhere that has a google store or an Apple app store so this is any Andriod device such as phones and tablets or any Apple device such as Iphone or Macbook, Ipad.

If you are not from the US, do not worry! This app works in US, UK, Australia, Canada, Spain, Portugal, Germany and France and other countries which is cool!

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Childhood trauma

 I suffer from a lot of anxiety. I also have a hormone imbalance that plays a factor in it along with having to attempt to be perfect as a child. It was like I had to please my father growing up. I had to do everything he said to a tee to make sure that he was not mad or going to yell at us. 

 Everything had to be done his way or the way he wanted and my mother would cover up for us if something happened or went wrong. Truthfully, their marriage still does not feel the greatest nor the happiest. 

Going to visit them every so often feels like its in shambles and everything is rocky because its like you cannot be your own person there, you have to be of his image and the way he wants and a lot of things he disapproves of like piercings and tattoos and hair dying and certain hair styles along with sexuality and he talks about people when they are overweight and pretty much not doing things he prefers or if someone is not working.  I in fact hid my sexuality and my mother even questioned about it in which, I am bi-sexual and my bother he is either bi-sexual or gay we cannot determine for sure but we are leaning on the bi-sexual but still. 

My mother is and always was an accepting woman and still is. She does not care as she always states its your life, do what you please. 

 Growing up, I would spend a lot of time outside instead of in the house because it was like everything I did was a displease. I would play with my toys but at a certain time, we had to clean it up so that it would not be everywhere when he got home even though we were still playing with them. To keep tension down and keep everyone happy.

I felt like my childhood trauma plays a big emotional abuse factor in my life because now, I try my best to make sure everything is squared away and I tried to people please to make them happy when they are irrelevant to me. 

They don't even matter in my life and I have learned that it does not matter what they say or think, this is my life and they do not have to be in it. 

I do not have to be surrounded by people that tries to munch off of me and take everything from me, I definitely do not need anyone judgmental of me and expects me to change my life to please them.

 I definitely do not need to live my life in their foot steps or try to be this tippy toppy person that I am not. You never know how much your trauma will eventually change your life and causing issues to occur to the point that it suffocates you and tries to force you into this unhappy person to where you are trying to please others and make sure that nothing is wrong. Well nothing can be right all the time and life throws things your way to help you grow even if you are not ready for it. 

Not everyone is suppose to be in your life, and you cannot please everyone so choose wisely on how you go about this. 

I would also often panic and have anxiety attacks over being a mom and over thinking and everything else when in fact, I am not a perfect mom. If you or anyone comes over, yes there are going to be toys laying around, there are going to be little hand prints from paint in certain places, there are going to be memories in my home whether it is on paper or on the walls. There are going to be little things here and there. Clothes may not be folded, the clothes hamper may be full, the counters may have stuff on them but I am not a bad mom because of this. 

My kids are loved, my kids have clothes on their backs, they are eating and never go hungry, they are playing, they are living. They are not growing up and suffering like I did. They do not have to worry about this or that or being fussed at for even wanting to play or just because they are kids. My kids gets everything they need. 

My kids do not have to suffer like I did. If there is something wrong or they are sick, they go on to the doctor unlike I did. I often feel like I am not a good enough mother. I often feel like I did not do enough I battle with myself a lot because of this but the truth is, I am a great mother. My kids are getting the things that they need the most. They are getting the time, the care, the love that they need. 

My kids do know their chores and knows when it is time to clean up everything. They also help around the house. They do not have the constant fear of doing something wrong. They do not have the anxiety that I went through nor the pain and suffering. My views are way different then my parents views.

 I do not hit my child just because they did something wrong. I do not hit my child at all. A child is a child, yes you discipline them but you can do so without yelling at them and getting in their face. You do not need to be hitting and beating on them. You can put them in time outs and take things away from them such as the things that they enjoy such as a tablet or TV time or video games. 

A child did not cause you the bad day that you had at work. A child is not someone you come home and relieve your anger on just because they did something at home and you had a bad day at work. I went through this multiple times and honestly it sucks because when you are a kid, you don't know why they are like this and then you are trying to grow and learn wrong from right and it is like everything you do is wrong. 

My dad, now that I am a mom myself tried to push his way of parenting on me and that went right out the window. I would rather my kid actually stay in a kids place instead of being beat and being forced to do things quicker and earlier. 

My kids also has autism and its like he did not understand at first and only was trying to push things he was taught but then after awhile, he started coming around and realizing the way he was taught was wrong along with the way he parented and now he does not bother giving parenting advice. 

 My mother also noted that he was always at work at the time of us growing up so he does not fully understand and grasp being a parent. He would go to work, come home frustrated with his job, find out we did something wrong and then beat us with his belt and then from there he would eat, go to bed and repeat. 

It is okay to be different in this world. It is not okay to be forced to feel like you have to be similar and have to be the same as everyone else. It is okay to be yourself. If you have suffered some of the things that I have went through then you know how hard it is to try to make friends. You know how easy it is to withdraw from people and isolate yourself. You know what it is like to try to people please due to fear and anxiety in which can also lead to guilt.

 Going through any kind of trauma will change a person. Going through any kind of abuse will also change a person. It can also bring a lot of anger as the person grows up and can cause a lot of PTSD because of what they been through and honestly, it is okay to feel the way you feel. 

 You have every right to feel that way but in the end, do not let it stop you from becoming the person you want to be even though it will be hard, you have to forgive them and grow from that to become better. Don't sit around with built up anger and don't let it run you and rule you. You can grow from it, it is going to take time but in the end, you never know who you may end up becoming. 

Honda CRV 1997 PVC B hose

 If you happen to drive a Honda CRV 1997, you know a lot of parts are now discontinued because of the age. You also know how hard it is to find the exact fit or a part because of this. All we knew was we blew a hose and needed a replacement.

 We did not know that it was going to be difficult to find one hose. The hose that we needed was the PVC B hose. 

The part number is 11856-P3F-000 Tube B, PCV and having to fight google with trying to find one and trying to figure it out without knowing what the part was called ended up having to take the google lens and google image and finding it, we eventually found what it was called just to be told it is discontinued.

After running to the part store not once but twice trying to find a hose for it, we found out the hose size is a 5/16th hose. The 5/8ths is a little to big. 

We also found out that if you are looking for the hose it is called a fuel line hose. We ended fighting with it for about 30 minutes trying to squeeze the nozzle in the hose and it worked, no more leaks. So if you are looking for a PCV hose get a 5/16th fuel line hose.

 If you happen to get a roll of this, you can end up tripping it down to the size you need and using the rest for later. 

Sensitive skin and soaps

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Having sensitive skin suck a lot. Having this kind of skin sometimes makes it hard to choose different products to use because a lot of the things that they are made of causes itches and skin irritations and a lot of other things.

Trust me, I know. I cannot really use Dove products because they break me out in hives and makes me scratch and scratch until I end up having to re-shower and use a different kind of soaps.

Lets not start about the itching of the armpits when using their deodorant in which don’t get me wrong, I use to use it all the time but now it just got to the point I cannot handle it. I also know they do have oatmeal products also in which I kind of like but I do not use them all the time.

I got tired of feeling like, I could not use anything to wash with and I decide to go with things that are made of Oat Milk in which the ST Ives soaps are amazing and I have no issues with them. They make my skin feel amazing and soft and smooth and I have not had any itching issues or skin irritations.

Another brand I have been using is Native. Native is an organic company that makes body washes, soaps, lotions and just over

all helps the skin and never caused an issue for me either.

Another brand that I use is by Shugar Soap works which is their oatmeal and coconut in which I love this company because their soaps are also a good one for those that are allergic to other soaps. It also does not have the bad chemicals in it and makes your body feel soft and smooth.

Occasionally I do use the soft soap wash and I have no problem with that either.

I also use soaps like Irish springs or dial soap or just pretty much any soaps that does not have deodorants in them because that is what itches me along with certain ingrednants such as Shea butter.

I heard that you can also use goat milk soap and it is pretty much better for you also unlike the dove and other products that has bad chemical in them.

You can also try STLR Homemade Soaps for men and women Use discount code: 215U, they use a lot of organic and natural materials and their soap is great. 

Health Insurance

 I have a lot of opinions on a lot of subjects but todays opinion and thoughts are about insurance. Insurance depending on what kind you have is a gimmick.

 Yes, it does cover and pay for things but it sometimes does not pay and cover things. It is good to have yes but until you need certain things then it becomes a hassle. 

Doctors often times have to fill out a lot of red tape paper work to get things going and often times the insurance company does not even bother with it and the person needing the treatment and help does not get it.

They tell the doctors to do testing, and exams and then they will pay for the things they need and even sometimes once all the testing and exams are done, they still do not pay what they need to and then doctors have to go around and try to find ways to help the patient get what they need or ways to help them. 

I know a lot of people are suffering right now needing supplies and certain medical treatments and medications to continue their lives normally and to get the help they are needing but because of their insurance they cannot get it without paying out of pocket for it and not a lot of people can afford that. 

I also know people who are currently going without their medications because they cannot afford it due to their insurance will not pay for it and they live on low and fixed income. 

The insurance rates are going up and up but what more are they actually doing to help the people pay for it and get the things that they need. 

I know a lot of people that do not have insurance also because well the state took their Medicaid away for no reason at all and now they are suffering with their sicknesses and other health problems that they are going through. 

There are a lot of things wrong with the healthcare industry. If we had universal healthcare, that would allow a lot of people to get the help that they need without having to worry about paying for the care. They would be able to use the money for other things. 

This would also help because a lot of people already cannot pay for their bills and they end up in collections in which it still does not get paid even though insurance is suppose to help pay for it, they often times do not. 

It is like they get to pick and choose what to pay for in which it ends up making the policyholder have to pay for most of it and often times the policyholder cannot pay in which is why a lot of people get insurance so that they don't have to pay all of it but in the end they may have to.

Here we go again...

The depression feeling is starting to comeback after so many years I pulled myself out of it. I feel let down.

 For months I asked for help around the house to do the things I cannot and am not supposed to do such as lift drywall, move the house around and other things but no.

 I was told I'm going to do it, I'm going to do it and if never got done.

 You quit your job stating oh I'm going to help before your other job comes in which they changed your start date to a later day. I'm going to do it and it's never done. 

For your wife to ask you multiple times to help get it fixed or do it and you repeatedly let me down but then when I bring it up I get nothing but excuses is exhausting. I am tired of having to ask repeatedly and expecting it to be done. 

Years and I do mean years since our anniversary is literally the 29th of March I had high hopes and expectation of but just as always they are let down and it sucks. My concerns mean nothing to you and they don't even bother you. 

I just get hit with the it's okay and the it'll be fine but no it's not fine and I'm tired of the one sided. I'm tired of your lies and empty promises. I'm tired of this "love" thing but yet don't even bother doing anything you say your going to do until it is relevant to you or something is going to happen. I'm sick of it. Its like I don't even matter only what you can get and so you don't be alone. 

You really do the bare minimum and that is it. We barely go anywhere. We haven't been on vacation since we got married. We haven't done anything you promised. I am just so tired of worrying and stressing while you're over there doing your own thing acting like my concerns don't bother you. Marriage isn't supposed to be nor feel like this. I  feel this way everyday or night. I should definitely not have the burden feeling I get that makes me feel hopeless in our marriage because my concerns and you lie to me. 

And another thing, I'm sick of the reassurance. I'm tired of reassuring you. It's like you know your not good enough and I have to always reassure you and I'm tired of it. It's the always you can replace me this that the other but yet you won't do anything I asked nor even bother and then when I get tired of it and end up leaving I'm the bad guy and get yelled at because you won't do anything to even change. Narcissist at its finest.