Self Care

You have to make yourself happy. You have to focus on yourself. You cannot make everyone happy it will end up causing you your peace and hurting you, taking your joy and just so much more things you do not deserve. 

You have to focus on you and yourself and not worry about things on the outside. People will come and go and many will use you to get what they want and need and then disappear. 

You are not a door mat so do not let them use you as one. You have feelings also and if they do not consider you and how you feel then they are not for you. A person that is for you will care for your well being and not just themselves.

Focus on your mental health and be sure you are okay. Take care of yourself and be sure that you are doing the things that you want to do, things that will make you happy and not wear yourself down trying to please everyone else. You cannot please everyone so please yourself. 

Heal yourself from everyone and things that broke you or you will end up breaking others around you and be sure that you love yourself, give yourself the time to heal and fix yourself before finding someone to love, this will help you not mess up but you can always heal with others if need be as long as you find someone who understands you and is willing to help you. 

Healing yourself before jumping into another relationship will allow you to get rid of the excess baggage and will allow you to start over with the person but if you do not feel ready, do not jump and just wait until you are ready. Sometimes being alone is best. 

It is not selfish to take care of yourself and say no to people, it is all about you and what you want not them. 

Yourself

When looking at a hurt person you can often see yourself inside of them. You want to help them build them self up but yet it's hard. It's hard because you do not know where to start. One wrong move and you can destroy them and yourself all at once. It is hard being hurt and know what its like while trying to cope with yourself and build the other person up. It's hard when they break you down in the process of destroying them self. It takes time and patience, it's not all gonna happen at once. Things are only temporary and this storm that you are in that is making you destroy yourself is not going to last always the best thing to do is talk to someone about everything and DON'T KEEP NOTHING BACK!!!!!! If you love the person tell them, Don't let something destroy you and don't let it destroy them either. Whatever is on your mind speak it tell the truth NEVER LIE ABOUT ANYTHING!!!!!
EMPTY YOUR HEAD AND THOUGHTS AND TELL THEM EVERYTHING I PROMISE TALKING HELPS!!!!

Love Yourself First

I was told recently that in order to love someone else you have to love yourself first. Well as I questioned them they told me that I have to talk everything out and let go of the things that cause me anger. I have started to actually love my self more today. I finally told my wife everything and parts of my past right before we met that was keeping me mad at myself. I don't know how to get past that part in my past. I try to push it back and out of my mind but it keeps coming back. I lost my aunt before we met and I didn't get to say bye or do something for her. I loved her just like I love my mother. Shortly after I lost her, I met my wife and it was like it was all planned. I have got mad and done things that I shouldn't have but even though I make her mad my wife has still stayed by my side and hasn't left. I have said things to her that should have never made it to the light of day. I Love her with all my heart and I want to spend the rest of my life with her.