We asked multiple times what we were doing for Easter and no one said a word. All we got was we don't know yet we aren't sure.
So we grilled out since with our family it was over 16 people including us.
We had everything perfect. The food got done at about 1:30, my aunt, uncle and cousin (she was already here since she spent the night) then my aunt messaged her brothers and they also came over and then my aunt in law came over also.
However the only people that didn't even bother coming over and we told them at 9:30 am that we are having it was my parents.
My aunt texted my mom to let her know the food was done and see if they were coming the only response we got was a it doesn't look like it since my dad was working on his truck gas lines and gas tank.
What a let down. My kids were so excited that we were celebrating and wanted to see their mimi and pawpaw as they call it but yet I had to break it to them that they weren't coming.
And honestly it doesn't even bother me anymore. They never come to see me even when they are 5 minutes down the road. They don't call to check on me. A phone works both ways is what I'm told but I'm the one that got to pick up and call.
They don't say hey come over or whatever. It's always I got to go to them but when I do they not even home so why waste time even trying.
There is no point in it. Why go to a place where it's like I'm unwelcomed and unwanted.
Easter is suppose to be about love, and family and celebration but its not when all my father talks about is money that was loan to my aunt and her not paying it back. A vengeance will destroy a family but it is what it is.
All of this eventually does hurt but in the end, there is no point in letting it. I am ready for new traditions. I am ready for new memories. I am not about to let this get in the way. Yeah it hurt growing up having to go to my aunts and uncles just so my mom and dad and grandma and grandpa can go to the beach for their anniversary every year after year and my brother and I not even getting to go but then them coming up that they are going to take me but in the long run, my husband took me before we even got married because I never been. We never had a family trip.
We never went anywhere together as a family but now as a mother, I am taking my kids out. I am taking them to the beach, to different trips. I am even taking my cousin out also. We have a zoo trip, fishing trip and a few other trips planned for this summer.
I refuse to try to make others happy. I am finally prioritizing myself and my family and not living for everyone else. I refuse to people please anymore and I am breaking cycles.
